If you are caring for a person living with dementia at home, Mondays with Mimi is where you can have your questions answered. In her 20 years at St. John’s, Mimi DeVinney (our Dementia/Quality of Life Specialist) has heard dozens of questions about caring for people living with dementia. Check this page on St. John’s Online Dementia Resource Center every Monday, to see Mimi’s answers to submitted questions.

My mom tells me the same stories, over and over. When I tell her she’s told me already, she gets angry with me. What can I do to help? -Bobby

This is easier said than done, but… stop telling her she’s told you. She doesn’t remember, and having her mistake pointed out to her just makes her feel defensive. I once heard Dr. Bill Thomas, geriatrician, address this subject. His advice was for us to consider that this story has something very important in it. There is either something significant to the person telling it, or there is a lesson in it for you. I’ve followed this advice ever since. As I listen I try to think what those lessons might be. I also challenge myself to try to come up with a slightly different response every time. At least that offers a little variety for me!

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If you have a question for Mimi related to dementia care at home, use this form to contact her.