Mom’s lifelong friend asked me the other day whether she should continue visiting with her. They’ve had a longstanding appointment to play cards and catch up on Thursday afternoons. My mom’s friend now says that mom always seems to be too tired to visit, and has been short with her at times. She still loves mom but isn’t sure that mom even wants her there to spend time with her. Is this common with Alzheimer’s disease? What should I tell my mom’s friend? -Trixie M.
My advice would be to continue the visits, but modify the circumstances. Afternoons can be a tough time of day for people with dementia. A morning visit might find your mom more receptive. The card game may have become too difficult for her and she doesn’t like to say so. Trying a simpler game or a different activity might be more successful.