Your note really touched me. It sounds like you had a wonderful marriage. It isn’t unusual for a person with dementia to have a rather flat expression. If they can’t articulate their feelings, it makes it that much harder when you can’t look to their faces for clues. But, in my opinion, we don’t need any clues in this case, because this isn’t a mystery. Your husband told you how he felt. And that was quite a thing to be able to do so shortly before his death. People with dementia tell the truth. And if he was very unhappy with how you did things, he would have let you know, somehow. It was a big responsibility that you had, and I understand your having some lingering concerns about how you handled it. But I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Looking from the outside in, it seems like you did everything right. You were able to give him everything he needed, and he died a peaceful death. I’m sure he felt how much you loved him during every bit of that. To me it seems like the perfect outcome of a 53-year marriage. Well done.